By: Whitney Northern

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
1 Peter 4:8 NIV

When my husband and I were preparing to get married, our pastor asked us to attend a few counseling sessions before the wedding. We were young (18 and 19 years old), and he wanted to make sure we were ready. One of the things he said to us was, “Never let anyone in your bedroom,” and that is something that has stuck with me throughout the last ten years of marriage.  

When we mess up, God does not air our failures for the world to see. He doesn’t secretly tell our church family to give them a heads-up on our sins. No, He covers us in love and forgiveness. He protects us from those who would use our failures as a weapon against us. There are times when godly counsel is necessary, but our pastor was saying we needed to do the same thing. We are flawed humans and we all fail, but covering each other in love rather than airing the “dirty laundry” is how we protect our relationships.  

Have your words painted your spouse in a negative light? Are you protecting them against an enemy that would seek to destroy them?

Today, challenge yourself to say five positive things about your husband or wife, whether it’s to a friend, family member, or stranger. And while you’re at it, even if you’ve had a rough start to your day, send your spouse an encouraging word and an “I love you.”